Six Sexist Things: I won’t be convinced there is no sexism in society until…

1. “female” and our concept of “feminine” are not considered worse or inferior to ”male” or our concept of ”masculine”. It is as cool, and as okay, to be female and to be feminine as it is to be a boy or to be masculine.

2. Women are equally central to society as men are. This means no more sexist language (eg. using “he” to mean “she or he”. Alternatively use the word ”they” as a gender-neutral singular, or else, half the time say/write the word “she” instead of ”he”). Female characters have as many main roles, and as many good roles, as male characters on movies or TV, and in books. Men and women in general listen to and like music by female singers as much as they like/listen to music by male singers.

3. the hyper-sexualisation, reproduction and consumption of the female body is heavily reduced. The female body is treated a lot less like property. Being hot, attractive or beautiful is no longer so important to women, it is no longer what gives them their value.

4. all degrading and violent porn, and child porn, is made illegal and this is enforced - it is made illegal to produce or distribute this type of porn; and the courts and the police crack down extremely harshly on offenders = first by caring enough to seek out offenders/investigate shops selling porn; and secondly by sentencing all offenders very harshly. Police no longer ignore/turn a blind eye to this type of porn. I include in this type of porn: rape fantasies, gang-bangs, and “school-girl-porn-star” fantasies (eg. where the porn star is wearing clothes that resemble parts of a school uniform).

5. Prostitution is decriminalised only for the prostitutes, and never for the johns. And the police actively search out johns. And the johns face harsh penalties.

6. strip clubs no longer exist.

These are just the bare basic necessities – in my opinion – to work towards a society that is much better for women, and is much less sexist (there are other sexist issues as well that need sorting out, I’ve just listed some of the most obvious and huge ones).  This list is my own opinion. You may not agree with all (or any) of it. I shall give my reasons for each in later posts. Particularly I will focus on the first 2 or 3 issues, as they are they involve the whole of society, and are issues that are hugely important to me.

 

 

 

 

NOT a girly-girl

 

 

 

 

Bad for boys to be feminine but good for girls to be masculine?

 

 Many girls feel a stigma attached to being “too girly” which really irks me. I want to explore why this stigma is there in my next posts.  I’m feeling

really angry about this right now, upset. I’ve just realized that when I was 4 I decided I liked purple better than pink. It wasn’t true. I really did prefer pink but I was trying not to be a girly girl. Being girly was embarrassing. It was uncool. Boys teased me and thought I was silly if I acted girly. Boys are never faced with a similar stigma about being a boy, I think. It is always okay for them to like blue or trucks. If they are particularly “macho” or boy-like this is fine too. Boys are taught to strongly resist being more ‘like a girl’ – being feminine.